Posts tagged ‘dating’

July 26, 2013

My First Friday Favorites … YAY!



F* dating shows when you have a dating experiment! Forty Days of Dating

30 UNDER 30 – Refinery 29
I read about every person instead of skimming over it and picking the ones I auto-liked. I’m really glad I took the time to learn about all of them.

favorite quote from article
What’s the best professional lesson you’ve learned?
“Probably the most useful lesson I have learned is one I taught myself the hard way: Don’t work with people you don’t respect or people who don’t respect you, no matter what the incentive. It’s better to be surrounded by authentic support and intellectual stimulation and be broke than to make more money through situations that are a drag.”

July 3, 2012


June 20, 2012

It all TERRIFYS ME, I’m just a silly scaredy cat!

I’m dating a boy! Well more of a man, he is a decade older than me after all. But the same guy I wrote about months ago, in my I Like You post, the one I texted at Coachella in my moment of clarity. Well I wrote him this letter, after a very long story that I’ll keep mostly to myself, but that letter changed everything. And now, for the first time, a guy that I thought I had no chance with; well we are actually dating. We are enamored and smitten. Last Friday we went to see Pisces together (see below video) and I was nervous he wouldn’t like the music, so he wouldn’t want to go. BUT GUESS WHAT! He was open to going to the show, pay to go to this show of a band he didn’t know, and all because he knew I wanted to go cause I wanted to dance.

Yeah, I have some bad habits to unlearn, or bad expectations. It’s interesting how we can so easily be trained to expect the worst, when it’s supposed to be normal for a fellow to WANT to go to things his gal. Wants to go REGARDLESS if he really wants to or not, but go because he gets to spend time with his gal. There are a list of things I don’t ever want to feel again when it comes to matters of the heart, like the hot burn of off and on rejection. Happily I don’t think I’ll be feeling rejected, no not from him, not like that.

May 8, 2012

Bitch Move or Nice Gesture?

In the past when I’m approached by a guy, I’m not interested in sometimes I would be nice, and sometimes I would be cold, mostly out of insecurity and awkward discomfort. Oh and I immediately know if I’m into a guy or not, I put a lot of weight in “the spark.” Any ways now I’m just basically nice and try to find an escape route, or lie about having a boyfriend (easiest out ever!) but I’m never a cold bitch, because I’ve learned to deal with awkward discomfort. But I was thinking about it today, and wondered if I just told the guy immediately, right after I have decided I’m not interested that “I’m not interested”; is that a bitch move or a nice gesture? It could be seen as a bitch move because you are instantly turning the guy down, but also (as I see it) could be a nice gesture because now he isn’t wasting his time on me when he could be meeting another girl who would be SUPER into him.

I’ve come to decide this, the next time I am approached out and about by a guy; I am not interested in; I’m going to try to place myself as a wing woman. Politely say I am not interested, but have spotted a girl who has glanced his way once or twice (and I will not lie about this; I  will be searching for this girl) OR ask him for the second girl; he was interested in and introduce the guy to the girl. Cause as one small business said that is pimping out pretty girls as rich men’s date to network events, a man can get a lot further with a woman with another pretty woman by his side.

April 5, 2012

Tom is Stupid & Summer is a Bitch

Last night I watched 500 Days of Summer, one of my favorite movies that I had not watched in a while. Cinematically it is still one of my favs, stylistically one of my favs, but I looked at the story in a whole new light and I have to say; Tom you are absolutely retarded and Summer you’re a fucking bitch!
When I first saw this movie (500 Days of Summer) I thought the world of Tom, and empathized with Summer. Now in lieu of being strung along by a guy, letting someone else mean more to me than my own self-worth and wellbeing, and having my own heart completely disregarded with no care in the world. I would like to say I deserved every painful, long drawn out crying fit or torturous painful *anorexic induced stress and stomach retching ach because I “loved” him or thought “he was the one”. And I decided yes we will be friends and someday he will love me, etc. Until one day I woke up like Tom drawing on his wall and decided enough of this, I’m moving on.

But just as N.D, knew I was in love with him, and should have let this poor struggling fish off the damn line and not say “let’s be friends”. Summer should have said “Hi Tom, sorry I’m just not in love with you and don’t think I ever will be lets go our separate ways”. Don’t dance with him; don’t give him morsels of hope to be choked on later by an engagement ring!!

I’m not that great at dating, as I have “value” issues to deal with. You know saying “I’m better than this” or “I deserve to be pursued” lots of lingo like that. I can get clingy or want to move to fast out of a deep knowing that “hell he doesn’t want a relationship with me anyways so what the hell”. But I’m changing and growing. A part of that is to NOT BE A FRIEND, with someone you really like or was in a relationship with because it only leads to you being emotionally abused and mind fucked.

In conclusion, Tom I hoped you learned your lesson and Summer I’m glad you got married cause you should no longer talk to your ex’s, that is just bad form!

*I was not anorexic. But my calorie count was around 500 at some point cause I just couldn’t eat and I drank a lot of high-calorie sodas/juices to keep blood sugar up– I was a mess.

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